Self-confidence

Self-confidence

No matter how old we are, we all need self-confidence. This inner way allows us to approve ourselves and overcome all the challenges that life can put in our path. When children are still in kindergarten or at the small school, here are some of the criteria that pedagogues remarks when the self-confidence of a child is at its highest:

Taste to realize new things, to go for it to discover
Demonstration of pride following a success
Perseverance even after hardship
Relaxed during learning
Have fun doing a new activity
Remember success stories and name them

We should all be basing ourselves on these few points in order to be able to evaluate our own inner voice giving us our self-esteem. Here are some important things to remember:

To know and accept each other

The first rule in self-esteem and getting to know each other. You have to be able to identify what I like and what I do not like. We must be able to talk about our successes but also our failures. We must also be able to recognize our faults and our qualities. But to know oneself is not enough. We must first accept each other. It is not necessary to have only qualities to have a good self-esteem. But we must rather be able to assume its faults or want to change them. We suggest the following exercise “Who am I? To help you in this process of self-awareness

Attitudes conducive to self-esteem

Recognize that we are not infallible. Do not lower yourself. If you make a mistake, instead of criticizing yourself, take the time to review what you have learned. Instead of saying “I’m good for nothing, I missed an exam.” Instead, say, “Next time, I’ll do better.” Stop punishing yourself. Learn, on the contrary, to reward you. He can improve his self-esteem on the small things that are very simple such as buying a new piece of clothing, having a relaxing evening listening to a good movie or relaxing music.
Here are some additional tips for managing failures that are part of our life as well as successes:
– Do not see things in black or white. One must know how to qualify the vision of failure.
– Remember that all have failed one day, fail or fail …
– Think of your failures as sources of information about yourself and not as evidence of disability.
– Admit that everyone is making mistakes. When you make a mistake, do not go down. There are lessons to be learned from our mistakes.
– It is not necessary to be flawless to have a good self-esteem. You have to be able to assume them and change them.

To be perseverant

Perseverance consists in persisting in an activity in order to achieve the desired result. Perseverance allows us not to be discouraged despite obstacles. It encompasses a desire to succeed and obstacles are considered challenges. Perseverance therefore requires tenacity. Thus the success that accompanies such an attitude allows us to be certain that the success achieved comes from our efforts and our esteem increases at the same time. So to say to oneself “I will not let go of this problem of mathematics before having found the solution. Demonstrates perseverance.

To be able to take risks

Self-esteem is built on challenges, whether it’s looking for a job or embarking on a new venture. In all these situations, the risk is present: that of displeasing, losing face, failing, etc. However, while safety and comfort are so important to us that they prevent us from taking risks, we limit our ability to develop our self-esteem enormously. So you have to train and allow yourself to take risks that are present day by day in your life.

Avoid the pitfalls of comparison

We are often inclined to compare ourselves to others when we evaluate ourselves on many levels (appearance: Lucie is more beautiful than I. sporting performance: Pierre is more skillful than me in tennis.) Such comparisons negatively influence our self-esteem. . Be realistic. Try to be perfect and compare yourself to other nights with self-esteem.

Stop the critical internal dialogue

The “critical internal dialogue” is the critical thoughts that we address such as “It will not work. “It’s useless, what’s the point? Or “It was a failure. “. All of these critical thoughts hurt our self-esteem. Thus, one must become aware of their existence and confront them by asking you the following questions:

• Is this thought realistic?
• Does this thought help me feel better?
• Does this thought helps me cope with the situation?

Would others have the same kind of thinking as I do about this situation? If the answer is NO, then it must be changed because it has negative consequences on self-esteem. These thoughts must be changed by more realistic and constructive thoughts.

 

Be aware that you are unique and be proud of it.

Resolutions 2019 – For Professional and Personal Success

Resolutions 2019 – For Professional and Personal Success

If you are a student, there are some great things you can do to become a better person and a better student. You must be able to accommodate both your student lifestyle and personal life. Here are some all-year-round and easy-to-follow ideas that will definitely work!

  1. Improve your diet and do some sports

Instead of spending your time partying or studying, choose to devote some of your time to do some sport. Not only will this keep your body fit and healthy, but it is also a great stress reliever.

Many university campuses have free gyms for students so take advantage of the facilities available to you. Set up an exercise program that suits your school schedule every week and stick to it.

Improving your diet can not only help you keep the extra pounds off, but it can also improve your mood and energy levels.

  1. Make a budget and stick to it

As a student, spending can spiral out of control with the need to invest in entertainment, day-to-day basics and purchases of new clothing and school supplies.

Keeping a budget is a good way to acquire financial skills that will serve you in the real world and keep you away from debt.

Several online tools can help you keep a budget in writing so you can refer to it and adjust it when needed. Here’s an example: https://www.budgetenligne.net/budget/

  1. Take a challenge that scares you

Whether it’s a greater responsibility or a new skill that you need to learn, doing something that’s scary will help you increase your self-confidence, develop your skills, and prove to yourself that you’re able to push off your limits.

  1. Manage your stress better

Stress can be harmful to your physical and emotional life, and it can be harmful to your relationships.

So, for the new year, make it a goal to better to manage your stress, and if possible, reduce it. Reducing stress also allows you to be more effective without fear or anxiety.

These were only a couple of resolutions examples but you can set your own goals in addition! The purpose of the resolutions to take a new perspective of yourself and wanting to improve yourself. Any small change and improvement to your daily life can only be beneficial!

 

Happy New Year 2019!

 

The basics of the Back to School time

The basics of the Back to School time

Start the year strong and stay focused!
What a summer! Good time and a whol lot of emotions! It’s now the time to go back to school. You’ll find familiar faces but we also face new challenges! Here are some tips to help you get off to a good start this year.

Prepping is key
There is no better time than back to school time to start thinking of all the things that you’ll need to put in place for the year. You can start by cleaning up your belongings: sort your school equipment from last year, your clothes, your sportswear, etc. Do you have everything you need? Then you could take the opportunity to create a homework space. A personalized place that inspires you and gives you the motivation to start the year!

Put in place a regular schedule
After the summer where you’ve had lots of beautiful things happening, you’re probably used to sleep a little late, sleep in the morning or do things at your own pace. With school, all this will change!

To get used to it again you could, for example, gradually start to get up earlier: it will seem less difficult for you to get up for the big day. It’s not always easy to go to bed early and have a restful sleep! You can try to relax by thinking of pleasant things, reading a good book or listening to relaxing music. Use the relaxation method you prefer to have a restful night sleep.

Set realistic goals
Perhaps you could take a moment to reflect on your strengths and challenges, or what you want to improve this year?

A few words in your agenda, motivational phrases or a painting in your room can encourage you throughout the year.

These objectives do not have to relate to academic results. This could be for example to go more towards the others, to get more involve in student life, or to keep more personal time for your passions! It’s time to think about what will really make you tick!

Ask for help
During the year, if you have difficulties, do not wait too long! Asking for help is also a way to make sure you stay focused on your goals. Stay on the lookout for what is generally problematic, you can seek advice before difficult situations arise and better prepare for it! Do not hesitate to ask for help, to a teacher, a student, someone you trust or your CJE.